Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Blow me off once, shame on you. Blow me off twice, shame on me.

The only thing worse than getting blown off once?  Getting blown off twice by the same person. It can happen to the best of us.  You're madly in love with a person, they break your heart, and you try to move on.  It could be days, weeks, months, or years later when they worm their way back into your life and promise things will be different this time.  So, what do you do?  You tell yourself rejecting them would actually be taking the easy way out.  That love is all about taking risks and that you'd rather get your heart broken then wonder "what if" for the rest of your life. That maybe this time, things really would be different.   When your friends warn you you're making a mistake, you secretly tell yourself that you'll no longer let them in on the ups and downs of the relationship, and that if you get hurt again, you won't cry on anyone's shoulder.

We're all for second chances at the Blow Off, but how often do they really pan out?   In my own dating history, I've given two different guys second chances and both fucked it up.   I probably would have granted a few other guys another shot, but they just never asked for one.

One guy was a friend of my college roommate.  He wasn't the kind of guy that could stop traffic, but he was the first boy that ever made me feel HOT.  Plus, we had banter.  Not only did he get my sarcasm, but he could combat it with witty responses.   I was so taken with him that after months of severe sexual tension, I broke up with my high school boyfriend to date him.   I even made him a hemp necklace.  And then he pretty much freaked out, left school a quarter early, and disappeared.  Three years later came the resurrection.  This time, he had a girlfriend, but swore he was going to break up with her and that we would finally get a chance to be together. He didn't and we didn't.  I was so mad at myself for not learning my lesson and told him never to contact me again.  Another three years went by and he looked me up in New York.  We met up and he called me "bitter" when I wouldn't make out with him.   He was right if "bitter" meant being in love with someone else.

So, readers--- have you given anyone multiple chances before?   Did it work out?  Or did you have to get your heart stitched up all over again?  


  1. I don't know about love in the equation, but I have certainly hooked up with and then blown-off a girl several times. Several girls, several times, actually.

  2. I was once in an on-again off-again ill-defined thing with a close male friend. After one devastating blow off, I let him back in as a friend and then, one stupid night, as more. The second blow off was the last.

    For a long time I'd think about him and wish we'd somehow stayed friends. Then I heard some recent stories that sounded way too familiar. I'm glad the door stayed shut.

  3. Ive been blown of twice in one week by a boy.who claims to have liked me so much. Now im like fuck your shit