Tuesday, November 9, 2010

mutual friends & the BLOW OFF

You've been dating for a long time, had sex, fallen in love, had less sex, fallen out of love...and then one day you wake up and realize it's time for a big fat wet BLOW OFF. Here's the problem: somewhere along the course of your relationship his/her friends became your friends. If you break up, who do you hang out with? It's bad enough to be out a lover, but now you're out a shitload of drinking buddies too.

This sucks. I say only keep around the mutual friends that really mean something to you. And even then, limit the time you spend with them. Otherwise, your ex just becomes the huge elephant in the room that you never talk about...when the whole time you're wondering what your friend knows about the old gf and aren't telling you. (i.e. she moved on a long time ago and her new BF is way hotter than you.)

Also, if one of the mutual friends is way closer to you than they are to the ex, I think it's fair to expect them to stop hanging out with public enemy #1. After all, if you weren't part of the equation, they would have never been friends in the first place. And now that you're out of the equation, the two of them don't add up. (Wow, the puns are just pouring out of me today.)

The best rule of thumb is to avoid trading in your peeps for their peeps when you meet. Keep your own friends around so if a BLOW OFF does rear its ugly head, you don't end up completely and totally alone. Relationships don't come with contingency plans, so sometimes you have to come up with one of your own.

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