Tuesday, November 23, 2010

visualize the question mark

For those of you that are currently between relationships and looking for someone to settle down with, here's a piece of advice: visualize the question mark. I know what you're thinking. WTF does that mean? Well, it's a little something I made up during a dry patch in my early twenties. A time when I had about -5 dating prospects.

The "question mark" is that guy or girl you're waiting to meet. The person that will make all the other blow offs you've endured worth it.

Now, I'm not a huge believer in laws of attraction. I don't necessarily think something will happen just because you think about it long enough, but I found a lot of comfort in visualizing my question mark man. For me, the worst thing about having no dating prospects was going to sleep at night with no one to think about: no one I looked forward to seeing the next day, no one I wanted to dress extra cute for, no one I wanted to download the details of my day with. Those nights were extra lonely. But instead of taking sleeping pills to make the pain go away, I just visualized my question mark man. The guy who took me to see some folk singer play in some tiny club, the guy who rubbed my back til I fell asleep, the guy who loved cheese plates as much as I did, the guy who watched art house flicks and bad reality TV. So what if his face was a little blurry and obscured by a giant question mark? He'd come into focus eventually.

So, if you're going to sleep tonight with no one to think about...put on a little Bright Eyes and visualize the question mark. Before you know it, question mark = that lovely lump of flesh that steals the sheets and farts in bed. But cuddles like a total champ.

1 comment:

  1. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/As_Fast_As_She_Can

    Before he exits the car, Ted admits that he is tired of searching for love, and hopes to find what she and Tony have. Stella tells Ted a story of how she once talked her way out of a speeding ticket. The cop pulled her over and walked up to her car and said "Young lady, I have been waiting for you all day." Stella looked up at him and said "I'm sorry, officer, I got here as fast as I could." When Ted asks if that really happened, she says no, it's just an old joke. Then she says that "the one" for Ted is coming "as fast as she can".