Remember when we were at the age where it didn't matter if the person we were dating was "marriage material?" God, 22 was the best. Before you know it, you hit your late twenties/early thirties, and feel the need to assess whether someone is good enough to be your future wife or husband by the end of the first date. Cause who wants to waste time on someone when you don't have time to waste? Sigh. The stakes are so high these days.
I'm pretty sure a couple of guys blew me off in my twenties, because I didn't fit the "wife" bill. I was good enough to date, but not good enough to have a long term relationship with. Then there were the guys (yes, guys) that were already thinking how great it would be to take me home to meet their parents...before we'd even made a dent in our appetizers. And of course those were the guys I didn't want to date.
The reigning Kings of the premature "I don't want to marry you" break ups are Jewish dudes who "accidentally" go out on a date with a non-Jew. Fuck those guys. J-date was invented for a reason.
But I digress. I once knew a woman who dated the same guy from the ages of 24-30. When the marriage question reared its ugly head, he broke up with her. Suddenly, she was starting over. Months after the break up, her friends dragged her to a Halloween party when she'd begged them to let her stay in and sulk. She reluctantly went to the party, met a guy, and within two years they were married and pregnant. And then there was another friend who dated her boyfriend for years. The two of them were living together when she started contemplating a break up...unfortunately, before she could muster the courage to end it, he got down on one knee and asked her to marry him. She had to say no.
It's hard when a relationship reaches the "I don't want to marry you" breaking point. But what's the alternative? Spending the rest of your life with someone who doesn't rock your world?
Let's contemplate this subject further by playing the video below and listening to cute hipsters sing about it.