Tuesday, February 22, 2011

the "I'm a huge slut" BLOW OFF

I love when the BLOW OFF gets a guest post sent to us. Not only because they allow me to keep my most embarrassing blow offs on the DL for a little bit longer, but also because that's what this site is all about. A forum for people to get their break ups off their chest. So, thanks to this guest reader for sending us the below email exchange. You too can follow her lead.

Here's a little background I got from "Jen" (names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.):

"JR is the guy I have had a crush on for a year. He's the brother of my friend's boyfriend. He is cute, sweet, shy and a bit awkward. At least I thought...So I went away with friends to the snow for NYE. And had the intentions of making out with some other guy on NYE. But then my crush showed up at the party I was at, he came up with some of the my other friends. At midnight, the crush, kissed me. I was shocked. I kissed him back and told him he was trouble. Then I ditched the other guy. The next two days we hung out in the snow. We went sledding, hottubbing, spooning. Awesomeness.

Flash forward: I go to LA for a week. He get's pneumonia for a week. Our friends keep asking what's going on with us. So we go the movies just the two of us last Friday. It's nice. We don't kiss because he's contagious. But it seems promising. Then I don't hear from him for like 4 days. So I send him a text, he responds. I send him another text, no response. On Thursday, I send him an invite to a party on Saturday (tonight). And I don't hear from him until this morning! And that would be the below email. I've never considered myself the "nice girl," but I guess he does."

> On Jan 29, 2011, at 9:05 AM, JR wrote:
>
> Best Jen,
>
> I have greatly enjoyed hanging out and making out with you. However, I
> think we should limit our future interactions to just hanging out.
> Having said that, probably we shouldn't hang out tonight because now
> our hanging out has great awkwardness potential. I don't want that to
> be the case and hope we can continue having fun hanging out soon.
>
> Best,
>
> JR

On Jan 29, 2011 11:01 AM, "Jen" wrote: > JR,
>
> Okay...Harsh...But thanks for letting me know what's up. But I'm
> confused. I could guess a whole lot of things, but for the sake of
> creating the least possible awkwardness, can I ask what happened? I
> know I felt a lot of external pressure. I am a woman and journalist
> after all, so spare me the hours of over-analysis and let a sistah know.
>
> Seriously,
> Jen

From: JR
Date: January 29, 2011 3:55:29 PM PST
To: Jen
Subject: Re: Hello

Please don't over analyze - it's definitely not anything that happened and I'm not sure what you mean by external pressure. I realized that you were probably right when you told me I was trouble and I just want to make sure that I don't cause too much of it. The bottom line is that I'm a huge slut and I don't see that changing anytime soon. I'm not sure what your policy on dating sluts is, but my (somewhat unsuccessful) policy on being a slut is not to be one with people I want to be friends with. I hope that helps, even if it sounds stupid and a bit crass.

JR

What do you think, readers? Do we respect JR for his honesty or is the I'm a slut blow off a bit weak? Comment below.

9 comments:

  1. I choked when she told me this story and I just choked while reading this story. What a huge slut. Ah-maze-ing.

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  2. Dude is a huge tool

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  3. I guess slut is just a funnier, more lighthearted way for the traditional guy blow off of "I'm commitment-phobic and not ready to settle down."

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  4. He gets five points for being honest instead of pulling the whole disappearing act, but gets minus twenty points for the "i want to have sex with other girls" argument. I know the guest writer and any guy who doesn't just want to have sex with her is, in the words of anonymous #2, a huge tool.

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  5. who said anything about commitment? i know i didn't.

    also, wait...he didn't want to sleep with me?
    -"jen"

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  6. This is what's annoying about boys, when they jump ship on commitment, before they even know it's what the girl wants.

    and he does want to have sex with you, he just wants to have sex with other people too. which is why he's a tool.

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  7. maybe a bit off topic, but does JR lose more points for writing an email rather than calling by phone or saying something in person? sure, email is so timely it's a preferred method of communication. when it carriers the weight of a BLOW OFF does it make the sender more cowardly? or is it still seen as considerate that he notified "jen" at all?

    btw, although that lifestyle doesn't interest me, i personally think "i'm a huge slut" from a guy is humorous. plus, it's a more honest answer than "i'm not open/ready/available." call his bluff, tell him you're into multiple partners too.

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  8. I'll take a blow off over email, text, phone, face to face over just never hearing from the person again. I think that's the biggest cop out of all. Unless you dump me on my facebook wall. That's just not cool.

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  9. "He is cute, sweet, shy and a bit awkward."
    AVOID! AVOID! AVOID! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE!

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