Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Every relationship has its villain

You know how some people were super into Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson when they had their reality show and got all depressed when they eventually filed for divorce? Well, that's how emotionally invested I am in Bethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy. In case you are not a connoisseur of reality TV, Bethenny used to be on Bravo's The Real Housewives of New York until getting her own spin off. Last year, she sold Skinny Girl Margarita for $120 million to Jim Beam. She's a mogul. She's a brand. She has her own empire. And I'm one of those girls that's turned on by powerful women. But that's not why I'm obsessed with Bethenny and Jason's marriage. I think in a weird way, they kind of remind me of myself and the H bomb (minus the fact that they are millionaires and we are not.)

Bethenny can be difficult (me). She's moody and emotionally guarded and very Type A (me). Jason is patient (the h bomb) and the kind of guy that rolls with the punches (the h bomb). According to Bethenny, she's the villain in the relationship. I'm pretty sure in our case, that's also me. However, I'm not exactly sure what made me this way. At least Bethenny has the excuse of an opportunist mother and an absentee dad that refused to see her even while he was on his deathbed. I have really great parents. And even though just like Jason, the H bomb has his anti-hero moments (especially when there's scotch in the equation)-- I beat him in the fly off the handle department. I nearly had an emotional meltdown the other night, because I was folding laundry and there were like a 100 pair of his socks and none of them matched and why does anyone have to have that many socks?

I get stressed out easily (Bethenny), he doesn't (Jason.) It's just the way we were wired I guess. I'm also probably more emotionally moved by things than he is. So, I guess there's an upside. And sometimes it's more fun being the villain. It makes you drunk with power. Okay, now I'm just getting carried away. Truth be told, I don't want to be the bad guy. I have many redeeming qualities. I've been trying extra hard to not let my moods get the best of me, to not sweat the small stuff, to focus on the positive, blah blah blah. I've stopped practicing evil spells. I try to take deep breaths and lock myself in the bathroom to cool down. But I'm also trying to not beat myself up every time I have a bad moment. No one can be perfect and pleasant and low maintenance all of the time. Those people are boring. Villains are just way more interesting. And heroes, well, they're flawed too.

Where do you stand on this issue, readers? Are you usually the good guy or the bad guy when it comes to your relationship? Be honest, don't make me feel like an asshole after I already just admitted to being one. Comment below!

8 comments:

  1. oh no, in this case, i'm definitely the villain. i try to go with the flow as much as possible, but i'm usually the one being like IS IT SO F-ING HARD TO PUT A NEW TOILET PAPER ROLL ON????

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    1. Film Girl, do you have someone new already after disappearing boy? ;)

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  2. Doesn't the woman always haev to be in the villian, because who wants to be married to "that Guy"....so unfair ! yes, I, m the Villiana an dI think of a million different reasons why its ok!

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  3. I feel like any woman who has a strong personality--opinionated, likes to take charge/control of situations, isn't afraid to confront issues head-on in all aspects of the relationship (like pointing out her husband's triple-digit pairs of mismatched socks)--is going to be typecast as the "villain". But what a misnomer! Since when do we live in a society where women are expected to behave like June Cleaver? Please! I'm an educated, outspoken woman and I like to direct my own life. My relationship is based on mutual love, respect, and trust. But I'm certainly not afraid to call my boyfriend out on his shit (just as he does with me), and I don't hesitate to make my opinions/gripes known. Does that make me a villain? Fine. I'll take it. It's the reason my guy fell in love with me in the first place.

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    1. omg, anonymous. I love you! Are we friends in real life, because we should be. I kind of take back this entire post!

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    2. We are cousins in real life :) And i love you too!

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    3. ps. you should NEVER take back your posts -- I love reading each and every one.

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    4. OMG, even better! We're actually related!!! Which cousin are you? LOL! love you too!

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