Thursday, June 7, 2012

Announcing the BLOW OFF

Sometimes the hardest thing about going through a break up is the arduous task of telling people your relationship is over.  Ugh.  It's the worst.  Cause as soon as you tell someone, it makes it real.  There's no going back.  I've known people who've avoided it for so long, they come off borderline unstable.  Then, there are the people that need to divulge right away to their tight inner-circle of Twitter followers via live tweets.  My favorite break up announcement is the old story from the actress Diane Farr.  She and her fiance had recently sent out engagement announcements when she discovered he'd been cheating on her.  So, she sent out a new announcement.  The front of the card read "single."  The inside read: met the wrong guy, gave him the wrong finger.  

My post-break up announcements were not nearly as cool.  I usually called my mom first.  Then my sister.  Then cried to three to four of my girlfriends.  Then, maybe had a conversation with one of his friends about it where I pretended like I was super cool with how things ended, while trying to get as much dish about him as possible (fingers crossed he's attempted to off himself.)

And then there are the people that for whatever reason you can't bear to tell.  This Huffpost article sent to me by my friend JK is a must read.  The writer, Margaret Wheeler Johnson, talks about how she had to tell everyone right away after her live-in girlfriend dumped her.  She needed support and wanted her friends and family to tell her she wasn't unlovable.  There was just one person she couldn't bring herself to tell.  Mo.  The proprietor of her and her girlfriend's favorite neighborhood bodega.  After the girlfriend moved out, Margaret started going to the bodega alone and Mo kept asking about her other half.  She just kept telling him her ex was really busy.  She even went as far as buying the kinds of food her old gf liked, while pretending she was taking them home to her.  Mo and her ex had a cute running flirtation and she couldn't muster up the courage to tell him his favorite customer had left her.  TEARS.  Honestly, read the article.  I can't do the story justice.

So, readers...where do you land on the break up announcement scale?  Do you prefer to give yourself time to process things before spreading the news?  Or do you to prefer to tell it to the say writing about it on this blog?  Comment below! 


  1. And now with Facebook, if you change your status to "single" the entire universe sees it immediately and there are no end to the people who tactlessly ask "OH NO WHAT HAPPENED"

  2. Lol! Film Girl is so right! One of my ex's and I didn't have the heart to change our status so left it in a relationship with each other for about 6 months. Pathetic, I know.

  3. omg, @anonymous. That is actually really kind of sweet. I think I need the full story on this one.