When Harry Met Sally). Mostly, I believe this, because I've had too many female friends over the years who have been harboring a secret passion for their best dude friend. Word to the wise: it never pans out the way you want it to.
For the straight guys, the arrangement was usually kind of perfect. Their best female friend was there to boost their ego the same way a real life girlfriend would. She'd be there to plan his birthday parties or buy him sentimental gifts. She'd show up when his band was having a gig. She'd help him move and have dinner with him and his parents if he needed a buffer. She'd go on trips with him. She was the perfect plus one for weddings and bar-mitzvahs. And if he accidentally had sex with her, but just wasn't into her enough to seal the relationship deal: there was always the "I don't want to ruin our friendship" excuse.
The falling in love with your friend scenario is really only good for people who want to torment themselves. I had a friend who was madly, obsessively, in love with a guy she met in college. He knew she had feelings for him, but considered her more of a little sister type. But she was patient. Really, really, really patient. And after pining for him for years, he finally gave in. Even though they actually dated for awhile, the dynamic was always dysfunctional. He had all the power in the relationship, because she had been in love with him for so much longer. She was always petrified that he'd end things with her that she spent most of the time they were together being an insecure mess.
I've been in love with my boy-friends on a few different occasions. There was the guy senior year in high school who I had a huge crush on even though he asked a tall freshman to winter formal. Even though we were "just friends" he still did things like ask me to save him a dance and then engage me in one of those super flirty tickle fights at the after party. I thought it was his way of confessing his love, but when we went back to school on Monday, I found out his freshman date was now officially his girlfriend. Then there was my sister's best friend's younger brother (you follow) who I had on again/off again feelings from the time I was twelve. We made out once in college and when I woke up the next morning, he had moved from the bed to the floor. I got the message loud and clear. It was almost ten years later after my sister's wedding that he told me he wanted to be more than friends. It was too late, I was already with the guy I'd marry.
So, readers: what do you think? Is the whole platonic friends thing a total crock? Do you have any success stories you'd like to share of ending up with the person you were supposedly just friends with? Here's at least one we've heard of. Are you for reals 100%-- he's not in love with you, you're not in love with him, friends with someone of the opposite sex? Oh, and also-- what about for the gay peeps out there? I was just at a gay friend's bday party that was filled with all of his hot gay friends. How are they not all in love with each other?! Someone please explain all this to me in the comments section below!
Also, ask yourself if you're secretly hoping your best male friend breaks this out at a karaoke bar, while staring at you the entire time he's singing it.