Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Is It Ever A Good Idea To Revisit Your Past?

I will admit.  Sometimes I suck at boy stuff.  I'm really bad at letting things happen naturally and just allowing them to run their course. Nine times out of ten I try to manipulate a situation to insure the outcome that I want. Fact: this has NEVER worked.  Not once.  It always ends up blowing up in my face. Yet I still continue to do it.  I think I need to take a look at the sayings they use in AA. "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." and that whole God grant me serenity for the things I cannot change... I've never been to AA but they seem to know what they are talking about. I'm also a fan of their serenity prayer and they usually have hot guys standing outside of the Robertson Blvd location (you Angelenos know what I'm talking about) and it's cheaper than buying a copy of The Secret or going to therapy.

Anyway, sometimes when things don't work out with a new guy I'm talking to, I like to go back in time. Try and see what's going on with guys that I have had something with in the past that didn't work out. Why, I don't know.  If it didn't work out then there's no logical reason why it should work now. Sure there's timing. But again if something is meant to be it's meant to be and I shouldn't manipulate it, right?

I (very recently) did this when I realized that the person was no longer attached. I was really nervous as it had been a long time but what could a friendly drink hurt? I had a much better time than I thought and now I'm even more confused.  So, is it a good idea to go back to your past? Does it stop us from moving forward? For me, the jury's still out. What do you think?  Comment below.

2 comments:

  1. Oh man, I'm the SAME way. Like my first boyfriend (from college) lives 3000 miles away and has a gf and every time I'm dating someone and I'm not feeling it, I think "I'm going to text college bf and see what he's up to!" And that has led to some amazing sexting, let me tell you...

    But no, it's not a good idea.

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  2. I'm so guilty of this! I used to totally get in touch with guys from the past between break ups just to get some male attention or to get an ego boost. I actually don't think it's a bad idea to have a rebound with someone you've already dated--- unless of course you actually have feelings for them, then it can get ugly.

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