Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Is It Ever A Good Idea To Revisit Your Past?

I will admit.  Sometimes I suck at boy stuff.  I'm really bad at letting things happen naturally and just allowing them to run their course. Nine times out of ten I try to manipulate a situation to insure the outcome that I want. Fact: this has NEVER worked.  Not once.  It always ends up blowing up in my face. Yet I still continue to do it.  I think I need to take a look at the sayings they use in AA. "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." and that whole God grant me serenity for the things I cannot change... I've never been to AA but they seem to know what they are talking about. I'm also a fan of their serenity prayer and they usually have hot guys standing outside of the Robertson Blvd location (you Angelenos know what I'm talking about) and it's cheaper than buying a copy of The Secret or going to therapy.

Anyway, sometimes when things don't work out with a new guy I'm talking to, I like to go back in time. Try and see what's going on with guys that I have had something with in the past that didn't work out. Why, I don't know.  If it didn't work out then there's no logical reason why it should work now. Sure there's timing. But again if something is meant to be it's meant to be and I shouldn't manipulate it, right?

I (very recently) did this when I realized that the person was no longer attached. I was really nervous as it had been a long time but what could a friendly drink hurt? I had a much better time than I thought and now I'm even more confused.  So, is it a good idea to go back to your past? Does it stop us from moving forward? For me, the jury's still out. What do you think?  Comment below.


  1. Oh man, I'm the SAME way. Like my first boyfriend (from college) lives 3000 miles away and has a gf and every time I'm dating someone and I'm not feeling it, I think "I'm going to text college bf and see what he's up to!" And that has led to some amazing sexting, let me tell you...

    But no, it's not a good idea.

  2. I'm so guilty of this! I used to totally get in touch with guys from the past between break ups just to get some male attention or to get an ego boost. I actually don't think it's a bad idea to have a rebound with someone you've already dated--- unless of course you actually have feelings for them, then it can get ugly.