Tuesday, November 27, 2012

the microscope & the BLOW OFF

The H bomb and I just got back from a week long trip to the Bay Area (my hometown!) to see friends and family for the Thanksgiving holiday. Even though we've been together for a long time and he's spent a ton of time with my family, I'm still learning how to balance the whole husband/blood relatives thing. I have a tendency to view him through a giant microscope when we're hanging out on my turf and I need to give the poor guy a break. I mean, for a six foot two white guy, he's done a pretty good job of fitting in with a bunch of miniature Iranians.

But I don't think I'm the only person that tends to be hyper-self conscious of their significant other in big groups. We usually think of the person we're dating as a reflection of ourselves, so if they put their foot in their mouth or do something remotely embarrassing-- we worry that it makes people think less of us in the process. There's been more than a few times where I've said something inappropriate in a large group and I've seen the H-bomb cringe a little. (I'm sure he cringes a lot when he reads this blog too). But the truth is, no one picks up on those moments as much as we do. And we end up looking like the a**holes for making a stink about it. (My mom literally told me "be nice to your husband" while we were home-- which clearly means my niceness experiment was a major fail.)

So, now that Thanksgiving is over and we're approaching Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanza-- let's try to retire our microscopes. And focus on all the great qualities about our BFs/life partners.  For instance, the H bomb is super upbeat, positive, funny, smart, smoking hot and not to mention he drove the whole way on our road trip. Most importantly, he loves my family as much as I do.  Clearly, all those things are a reflection of what great taste I have.

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