Tuesday, April 30, 2013

the successful BLOW OFF

When it comes to the success factor, most of the ladies I know don't place it high on the list of things they're looking for in a mate.  Sure they want someone that's passionate and ambitious, but that doesn't necessarily have to translate into a ton of $$$ in their bank account.  I would explain this by quoting Eurythmics and Aretha Franklin: Sisters are doing it for themselves.  The more money a woman makes, the less important it is for her to find a partner that can provide for her.  (Not sure how men feel about being with a woman that makes more money than them, but that's an entirely different post.)

BUT maybe we should be aiming to find someone that's already at the top of their game.  Here's why.  Let's say that singer who plays gigs at Hotel Cafe or that actor who had a guest spot on a soap opera or that dude with that great app idea you've been dating for years suddenly hits it BIG.  Awesome, right?  Yes, unless they realize that with all this new found success, they could now date anyone they want.  Now that their career has taken off, they don't actually need you by their side to support them and stroke their ego and tell them they'll be huge one day.

I know it might sound a bit cynical and maybe it happens more often in rare cases of fame and fortune, but it seems like I'm hearing more and more stories of people getting dumped when their significant other hits a career high.  Case in point, this is a picture of Jim Carrey and his first wife, Melissa Womer.
They were married in 1987, three years before In Living Color started.  So, in other words, when Carrey was still a struggling actor and comedian.  Guess when they got divorced?  In 1995, just a year after Dumb & Dumber came out.  And guess what happened right after that?  Jim Carrey married Lauren Holly.  And then he divorced her and dated Renee Zellweger.  And then Jenny McCarthy.  I don't doubt that he's all kind of crazy and difficult to be with, but there's no way his marriage coincidentally ended at a time when he became one of the biggest stars in Hollywood.  The same thing can happen when a woman reaches a high level of success too, but I think it's generally more common in men.

So.  What's a girl or guy to do?  Date a socially awkward Mark Zuckerberg type that will probably make it big, but is too weird to find anyone else to be with?  Date someone that's totally average and will always stay that way?  No, of course not.  I don't think there really is a solution, unless you can just try and match your spouses level of success.

Two words: Power.  Couple.

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