Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Stand By Your Woman?

By now pretty much everyone knows that Reese Witherspoon and her husband Jim Toth were arrested in Atlanta a few weekends ago.  He for a DUI and she for disorderly conduct.  When The Hollywood Reporter first broke the story they pulled information for the police record, mostly quotes from Reese.  It cited her saying things like:

Reese: "I'm an American citizen...I'm allowed to stand on American ground."

Reese: "Do you know my name sir?"
Officer: "Don't need to know."
Reese: "You don't NEED to know my name?"
Officer: "Not quite yet."

As if that wasn't enough fodder to make some great Legally Blonde jokes.  The two I made were: "Legally Blonde 3: Drunk and Disorderly" and "I guess Reese Witherspoon will find out if the ammonium thioglycolate defense will hold up in a real court."  But then TMZ blessed us with the actual dash cam videos of the arrest of Reese and her husband.  First off, is that legal?  I would feel like that was evidence.  Anyway, there were two videos that I found interesting.

The first is after Reese goes on her crazy rant arguing with the cop and after she gets cuffed and put in the car Jim tells the officer, "I had nothing to do with that."  The second is actually the audio of Reese and Jim from the back of the police car.  Reese is obviously hammered when she asks why they are even being arrested.  Jim is surprisingly calm and even though he was at a .139 blood alcohol level was able to explain to Reese that she didn't sit her ass in the car when the cop told her to.  She goes back into her American citizen diatribe and he proceeds to tell her she should've sat her ass in the car and let him get arrested.  She asks for what and he basically says, "Duh a DUI."  She once again asks why she's being arrested and he tells her that she is the one that has now turned this situation into national news and turned it really bad.  He takes responsibility for the situation saying it was his bad, but he definitely wasn't afraid to put her in her place.

So here's my question, was Jim standing by his woman?  And if he wasn't, should he have been? Should a man protect and defend his woman in a scary situation like an arrest and deal with the aftermath later?  Right or wrong, should he have been on Reese's side?  While she was being incredibly obnoxious in doing so, she was standing by her man throughout this arrest.  But the second things get hot in the kitchen or humid in the south shall we say, he throws her under the bus telling the cop that he didn't provoke her and then reprimands her in the police car.  While I know that they thought these conversations were private more-or-less, he did seem to be distancing himself from her when her behavior got out of control.

Is it a double standard?  Do you think Jim stood by Reese?  Can nothing be judged because this was all a booze-fueled situation?

All I know is she should've prepared better when she was playing Elle Woods.  Maybe this whole mess could've been avoided.



  1. I'm on Team Jim in this case. I think he knew that if he defended her to the cop, it would just make a bad situation worse. I don't know if reese witherspoon was as worried about defending her husband as she was just plain worried about the arrest being a national news story. I think he also needed to spell out to her in the police car what she had done wrong, or else she probably would have continued instigating the police officer. Either way, it's important to support your partner and have their back, but i don't think it has to be on an unconditional basis. i think one of the most valuable things you can find in a partner is someone who is willing to call you out on your shit and is not afraid to tell you when you're in the wrong. Something i'm sure reese witherspoon doesn't get from many other people in her life.

  2. Team Jim. Also... Isn't "hot in the south" a reference to a turning on of a lady, and in this case perhaps a belle?