Monday, July 1, 2013

Call Me, Maybe? Ugh...

"No I don't want your number.  No I don't want to give you mine."- TLC "No Scrubs"

For those of you not obsessed with BRAVO's Real Housewives franchise, the above lyric to TLC's hit, "No Scrubs" was penned by none other than Atlanta Housewife, Kandi Burruss.  Of course it was written by a woman. It's direct.  It's clear.  It's not "Yeah, I'll take your number.  Maybe I'll use it.  Maybe I won't.  Guess you'll just have to sweat it out and wait and see."

Lately I've been really frustrated by men that ask for your phone number but then never call you.  Honestly, can someone please explain what the point of that is to me?

How much easier is it for men to just say, "Nice to meet you."  When unprompted by the girl why do you go through the trouble of asking for our digits only not to use them?  Do you want options and a plethora of numbers to have in your reserve so you can choose the hottest girl when it comes time to set up a date?  Do you just like seeing if you can actually get the girl's number?  If you're not interested enough to actually call don't ask for it.  Hell, I'll even go as far as say text.  What has the world come to when a text is even acceptable.  But you know what?  It's better than radio silence from a guy who seemed interested.  Or maybe was pretending to be interested.

At the end of the day it's just rude.  And it's happening more and more frequently- at least with all of the girls I'm talking to.  We'd much rather you be direct.  Not like, "You seem like you're kinda crazy and a handful," direct.  But if you don't even have our phone number we're clearly not invested in you at this point and it would be so much easier and let's be honest, nicer of you to walk away.

So please, men, just do that next time.

This has been a Public Service Announcement from 20 LA Wannabe

PS A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me.


  1. I agree with you BUT - haven't you ever given your number to a guy that you were "feeling" in the moment and then he called or texted and you made up a couple excuses for why you could never hang out with him until he got the point? Or worse - you just never responded? I think NOT getting the number (or in our case not giving it) feels absolute and if it turns out in retrospect that he wants it and he doesn't have it the opportunity is gone. So it's kind of a "better safe than sorry" thing. Not saying it's okay - just saying that I get it, as an occasional offender from the opposite side.

    On a related note: I am REALLY bad at saying no to guys who ask for my number - I feel really guilty about it; and I think it's bad relationship karma to lie and say you have a boyfriend when you don't. ;-) I STILL have a dude that texts me from time to time trying to get together and it's been YEARS of my not replying...

  2. the waiting game is such torture. I've had so many great hang outs with guys only to have them never call me. I think it's sort of like that episode of Friends where Chandler keeps accidentally asking Rachel's boss out again because he doesn't want to be rude or it seems like the natural/polite way to end the conversation. I think Penny is spot on too. But totes agree, don't ask a girl for her number if you are just never going to call her. You can just look her up on facebook for god's sake.