Monday, September 23, 2013

While I'm On The Subject Of Eggs...

Last week I wrote a post asking how many baskets I should have for my eggs (baskets = men).  You can read it here.  And while I know that Saaara is on a cleanse, I just can't seem to get away from the animal byproduct.  I happened to be at my annual exam at the gynecologist's office when I went through the equivalent of emotional terrorism...okay I guess that's a little bit dramatic.  I hate going to the gyno.  I will spare you the clinical details but let's just say that I pushed my appointment three times before this visit and I was afraid that if I canceled this time I'd be getting a blow off from my doctor. 

Since I had to drive there and couldn't take a Xanax, I mentally prepared all day.  I did my yoga breathing and was trying to convince myself that I was as zen as possible.  There I am, ready to get this over with.  Legs in stirrups when she asks me if I've considered freezing my eggs?  Every ounce of namaste left me in that moment.

"Excuse me?  Do I need to be thinking about that?"

"Well if you're going to do it, the best time to do it is before you're thirty."

*Panic attack starts to set in.  Everyone keeps telling me that thirty is the new twenty.  I started to feel like I'd been lied to.  Is this really something I need to be concerned with right now?  This is not good.

"Do I need to be worried about my fertility?  I mean I'm only about to turn thirty next month.  I'm not planning on having my first kid at forty, but I thought I had time."

"You're fine.  Everything looks good.  I had my first child at thirty-five and I'm in my forties and had one last year.  I just wanted to ask because it seems like all of my patients have questions about it after watching the Kardashians."

THE KARDASHIANS.  THE KARDASHIANS.  The motherfucking KARDASHIANS strike again.  The Kardashians are about the last people I want to be discussing when I'm spread eagle and it seems like they've not only penetrated my television, internet, and magazines, but my doctor's office too.  Only in LA.

Would you consider freezing your eggs?  At thirty or any other age?
XO,
Wannabe

7 comments:

  1. I will be 30 in March and no I will not, won't not consider this right now. If I'm 35 and still sans-child then maybe I'll consider my options at that point. I'm so sick of people (like those K named freaks) scaring all us young, healthy, women into become old and dried up before it is our time.

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    1. "Shapiro at RBA estimates that a woman who freezes her eggs between the ages of 32 and 35 will have a 40 to 50% chance of achieving a successful pregnancy. If freezing between ages 35 and 38, the rate goes down to 35%. If freezing at 39 or 40, it's 20 to 25%, and if freezing eggs over age 40, the success rate will be less than 10%."

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  2. Same goes for men too... especially if you have a sketchy occupation and a Rumpelstiltskin style spouse.

    http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg21929275.500-mens-sperm-quality-decreases-at-age-35.html

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  3. I went solo to a friend wedding couple years ago; one of those weddings that you don't know anyone, but you go hoping to meet interesting people. I didn't know the lady who sat next to me at all, and our conversation started with her asking me if I have a boy friend. I thought she wants to set me up with someone and surprisingly next question was if I ever considered freezing my eggs?!!!! In the middle of a wedding, from someone I just met 2 minutes ago... I was 29 at that time, and got so offended. It totally ruined my night, I left the wedding early and couldn't stop thinking about what she said...

    Fast forward to two years from then, I have to say... I still think it wasn't her place to advise me on freezing my eggs, but I'm kinda glad that she did. I never thought about it before, and I was shocked for few weeks, but once I got over it and thought about it, it might actually be something I would consider. I know exactly how you feel, and I know how unpleasant it is to feel this way, but I can promise you that you will feel better with time. I encourage you to look into it once you get over it. Look at the bright side, at least it came from your gyno, not a stranger in a wedding ;)

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  4. OMG. I cannot believe a random wedding guest asked you that question! The nerve. So inappropriate. I'm turning 33 next month and I definitely nervous that once my husband and I are ready for kids, it'll be harder to get pregnant. I have to remind myself sometimes that I'm starting to get on the older end of the spectrum and that I don't exactly have the luxury of time, but I also have to wonder if doctors are asking more and more women that at a younger age, because technically it is money in their pocket right?

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    1. Sara, I don't think that's the case. There are only certain facilities that do the procedures, and I don't think gyno make any money out of it. I think the reason they suggest it more often now is that it's becoming more acceptable for women to take control of when they wanna have kids in general , and of course the sooner you do the procedures, the more you get out of your money.

      I found this article very interesting on WSj

      "Why I Froze My Eggs (And You Should, Too)

      Amid all the talk of 'leaning in' and 'having it all,' we've ignored the most powerful gender-equalizer."

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  5. thanks for sharing the article! I like the way she explains it as a way to control our own fertility. Maybe we should stop putting such a negative connotation on the whole notion of it and treat it more like a way to not have to worry about our fertility as much with age since men never have to worry about it. Here's another good article on the topic someone shared with me on Facebook:
    http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

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