Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Public Proposals & the BLOW OFF

Okay guys, I NEVER thought I'd say this but bigger isn't always better. When it comes to marriage proposals that is. Whenever I see or hear about a public proposal it makes me want to gag. Why do people feel the need to pull off these grandiose stunts for everyone else to see?  I'm declaring right here, right now, that if my S.O. ever proposes to me in a public forum my answer will be no.

There are of course some exceptions to this rule. You CAN propose in a public place like at the beach or on a hike if it's just the two of you. But a jumbotron at a sporting event is completely out of the question.

Public proposals to me are akin to those people who obsess about their actual wedding instead of being married. The Bridezilla that keeps referring to it as her day and she's the bride and everyone has to do whatever she says. With a big public proposal it's saying that you want to show off to everyone instead of keeping that intimate moment between yourselves. Does everyone remember when Tom Cruise was jumping on Oprah's couch proclaiming his love for Kate (as he referred to Katie Holmes back in the day)? Whenever a couple or part of a couple has to show their love off that's usually an indication of problems from the get go.

Here are two recent examples of public proposals that make my stomach cringe.

The public ostentatious nature of the Kimye proposal is about reason number 9,486,305 that I would never marry Kanye West.  For those of you that don't know here's the breakdown of the proposal heard 'round the world, because hey is there anything these two do that isn't public?

Location: AT&T Park, San Francisco

Method of proposal: Jumbotron that flashed the words "PLEEEASE MARRY MEE!!!!" while an orchestra played Lana Del Rey's "Young and Beautiful."
*Side note, apparently West offered Lana Del Rey $100,000 to perform this live for them and she refused because she hates them. I so hope this is true.

The Ring: 15-Carat Lorraine Schwartz diamond ring

West proposed to Kardashian at his own concert. The self-indulgence and ego is overwhelming. With all of that money you'd think he could've done better than a Jumbotron. The legitimacy of their relationship has already been questioned by just about everyone and this public display of affection certainly didn't help.

Courtney Reagan
CNBC host Courtney Reagan was proposed to on live TV while she was doing a story about, wait for it...engagement rings!  Her boyfriend of seven years, Jared bombarded her in the studio and got down on one knee. Courtney broke down and happily accepted the proposal but that's a moment that should have remained private. He was probably thinking, "It's taken me seven years to pull the trigger on this, I better do something to make up for that." In my opinion, epic fail.

What do you guys think of public proposals? Did any of you have one? If so did you love it or hate it?


  1. i want it to be a special moment between us, or with just close family/friends present. like in a private room. not where it's like "LOOK AT US LOOK AT US" look - no one cares that you're getting engaged

  2. i totally agree. I got proposed to on the beach and it was pretty isolated. the less bells and whistles leading up to the proposal, the more of a surprise it feels like too.

  3. TOTALLY agree. It should be private and special, not a public spectacle!

  4. Less is more. If anyone proposed to me via a jumbotron, I would die of embarrassment. I feel like you lose the intimacy and romance of the moment when you fly in 100 of your closets friends and family members, hire an orchestra, and the E! Film crew. Appeared totally scripted. So ridiculous- Thanks to Kanye forever ruining that lovely song for me... And why SF? Keep that extravaganza in LA! ;-) I hope their lawsuit against the youtube co-founder is thrown out and Lana Del Ray does indeed hate them.

    Saaara loved that your proposal was on the beach! So sweet!

    Has anyone seen his new video with Kim starring in it?
    The ridiculousness keeps going. ;-)