Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Ben Affleck, Playboy, & the BLOW OFF

I've never been one of those girls who's all about Playboy or fantasized about being a centerfold, but in the past few weeks it's peaked my interest. As if having my idol, Kate Moss, on the cover wasn't enough, they recently did a very interesting interview with Ben Affleck. In the interview he covered everything from soup to nuts. But there was one particular part of the interview that stands out to me. He was discussing his need to really throw himself into his work and how his wife, Jennifer Garner reacted to that:

"Once I'd made it, the most critical thing was that she said, 'If you're going to work 24 hours a day, that's cool. I'm going to be here.' That allowed me to think, Okay, that's what I'm going to do. I'm going to kill myself over this next period of time."

"Over the past 10 years, she has allowed me to have a stable home life while accomplishing my professional goals.”

My first thought? Here we go. The woman that has to take a backseat so the man can fulfill his dreams. Yes, your partner is supposed to be there to help you out but it seems like she shouldered all of the burden of the family during this time period. I mean, it does still take two people to decide to have kids right? And even if she was okay with putting her career on the back burner, how do you think the kids feel when Daddy is always working?

Anyway, this year he may be singing Garner's praises but that wasn't always the case. Last year during Awards Season, Affleck told the press that he was supposed to direct episodes of the Showtime hit Homeland but couldn't because he and Garner have a pact that they won't work at the same time because of the kids. He explains this in an article that's even titled "Ben Affleck: Jennifer Garner Wouldn't Let Me Direct Homeland Episode!" Seems like a far cry from the above, right? Presumably, Garner was filming The Dallas Buyers Club which has now been nominated for multiple SAG and Golden Globes awards but it's clear that he resented her for working and not being able to take this opportunity for himself.

The headlines surrounding Jennifer Garner are about taking Violet and Seraphina to school or the park and toting Samuel around on her hip. While she seems like she enjoys being a mother and in my opinion is probably one of the most involved mothers in Hollywood, it's hard to wonder if she doesn't feel like she gave something up to be with Affleck. His headlines are all about his talent (aside from the recent news that he was cast as Batman).

Clearly it's all about him. He's the star of the relationship and if she wants to be with him, she will be in the supporting role. The sad thing is that even though he's working so hard, he allegedly still finds time to cheat on her. That's word on the street. Nothing confirmed.

I know that I personally wouldn't want to be in this type of relationship. I want to be in a relationship where my partner and I are equals. That being said, I'm single and haven't found anyone that meets that criteria yet. So hey, I guess if it works for them, who am I to judge?

Would you be willing to always be the supporting player in a relationship? Comment below! And if you want to read the interview in full and get caught by your S.O,. you can for once tell them you bought Playboy for the articles.


1 comment:

  1. I really like that you touch on the fact that Jennifer Garner is probably one of the most involved mothers in Hollywood. It's something we just don't give women enough credit for. But it sucks that her husband's success has to come at the expense of her success. Or that he acts like a baby when he's had to take a back seat for her. Is the notion of an equal partnership just a fairytale? Also, maybe let's have some more fairytales about equal partnerships.