Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Tinder...not really a f*cking website.

A couple Sundays ago, over some brunch mimosas a married friend of mine asked a couple of us single gals to download Tinder. I had heard a few things about the app and so had she, good things mainly. So I downloaded. The rest of the evening we proceeded to "Tinder fuck the shit out of our phones" (or so her husband called it) which basically consisted of shopping for men. It was actually pretty addicting, judging the crap out of all these men, who were mostly VERY attractive (like 60/40).

After a few chats with a cute Brit, he asked me out for a drink on Wednesday. I had no idea what to expect since this would be popping my internet dating cherry, but I just went with it, hoping for the best but having pretty low expectations. Said Brit was very cute, age appropriate (I may have a problem being attracted to the youngins), there was no lull in conversation, I would say it was definitely a successful first meet up. He was very gentlemanly, walked me to my car, gave me a kiss on the cheek and texted me when he got home (not that I asked him to, he just did).

I tell one of the girls about my experience and she all she had to say is: "Tinder is strictly a f*cking website." I didn't really think so, since in my limited experience, the most action I got was a kiss on the cheek. So he asks me out for Saturday and I agree. Twice in one week, much more than I usually date (um...not at all these days). We have a nice dinner, good conversation, walks me to my car, kiss on the cheek. So then we go out AGAIN the following week. I'm thinking, for sure we're going to kiss, it's now the third date, we text everyday, he says cute things to me like he's attracted to me. No kiss. What the...????

So, of course I'm talking to my friends about this to which one of them says: "Maybe he's just a gentleman and you're just a slut." Is that really what's going on here? Are we so jaded that we can't even let a guy court us without making a move right away? I'm reminded of the episode of Sex and the City when Carrie asks herself the same question.

For now, I don't know where this is going, but I'm left feeling like I made a new friend who likes to pay for my dinners.  I'll keep you all posted as this story develops...but what do you guys think?  Is he a gentleman and I'm just a slut or is there more to it than that?  Comment below.

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  1. When he finally sleeps with you it will suddenly make sense.

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  2. I'm left feeling like "Anonymous" is secretly him. LOL

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  3. I had a family set up and the guy did not make any move even after 3 dates. very awkward good byes (hug, kinda reaching to kiss but not kiss, cheek kiss... ) I was really puzzled by what's going on. After listening to couple of his voice messages with my friends, everyone agreed that he must be gay!!! :))

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    1. I definitely don't think he's gay and our good byes are never awkward. Just never goes in for the move.

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    2. I remember listening to that phone message, LOL.

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  4. Could be a gentleman, or maybe just nervous? Seems like he likes you, though. I say try getting drunk together in a cozy corner of a dark bar and see what happens. That's my plan for my upcoming 3rd date with a guy where date 1 ended in an on the street make-out and date 2 ended with a cheek kiss, very confusing.

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  5. The same happened to me and the guy ended up just wanting to be friends.... #nonewfriends

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  6. I've been on Tinder for about a month and am dating 3 men I met on the app. All 3 were attractive, employed, and had great personalities. I think Tinder is a dating goldmine, in my opinion. Please keep us posted!

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  7. i'm dying to find out how things go with this guy. Maybe it's a good thing that he's taking things slow and doesn't want you to think he's just about hooking up. But if nothing changes by date 5, then seriously, WTF.

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