Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Cute vs Sexy

I'm not trying to be one of those girls, I swear. All compliments are always accepted. Like when you tell me that I look skinny on a particular day I'm not going to snap back and ask you if that means you think I looked fat yesterday and last week. That being said, I do think there is something hidden behind semantics and therein lies the cute vs sexy debate.

Let's break it down. What is cute? Cute is an adjective used to describe something aesthetically pleasing that people fawn over but it is usually juvenile in nature. Bunnies are cute. Puppies are cute. Babies are of course cute. What is sexy? Sexy is an adjective used to describe someone that arouses other people physically. Sports Illustrated swimsuit models are sexy.

I happen to fall into the cute category. At least so I'm told repeatedly. But you know what the problem is? No one fantasizes about throwing "cute" up against a wall and calling them a dirty slut and f-ing their brains out. While being called cute is nice, goddamnit I want to be thought of as sexy. In terms of the most obvious of celebrity women you'd say that Jennifer Aniston is cute and Angelina Jolie is sexy. And I think we all know how that panned out.

And before you say it, it's not like being cute automatically puts me in the girlfriend material column either. It's not like I want to walk around in leather and wear bright red lipstick all day. Nor do I want to be leered at and objectified. It would just be nice to sometimes be called sexy since that's a more mature version of cute.

Would you rather be considered cute or sexy?



  1. This is a tough one. Cute get hugs. I love a good hug. However, when I weighed all of 90 lbs. wet in a cheap wool suit, people thought I was cute and they would pick me up. Not at all cool when you are working on the line in a kitchen and someone just moves you out of the way. Cute gets dismissed.
    However, sexy sounds exhausting. Sexy requires work (I suspect as I don't think I have ever fallen into the sexy category). Angelina looks fucking hungry! Sexy also generally looks bored (again, see Angelina).
    Now that I have broken it down that way, I'd rather be cute. Cute gets to eat things like cupcakes, cute gets to laugh a cute little giggle, cute doesn't have to stress about what to wear and who is looking, and cute can still be rich and famous. Reese Witherspoon.

  2. I realized and accepted long ago that I would always be in the cute category-- it's kind of what happens when you're short and petite. But I've embraced it. and when I bring the sexy out, it makes me feel like i'm in every good 80s/early 90s make over movie.