Thursday, March 6, 2014

the grand gesture & the BLOW OFF

As you all probably know, last week Robin Thicke and Paula Patton announced they were separating.  Following the announcement, Thicke cancelled a couple performances and then at his most recent shows, he's dedicated songs to Paula and made a public plea to get her back.  And then apparently sent her a shitload of flowers.  "Sources" say that Paula's wanted this divorce ever since she saw her husband on stage in black and white Beetlejuice pin-stripes.

Here's a video of Robin saying he's trying to get his girl back (uh, yeah-- "girl" cause they're teenagers?)
                
This got me thinking.  Robin Thicke made a very public grand gesture. This is like Lloyd Dobler standing outside of your bedroom window with a boom box times a thousand.  But assuming he really is a nasty cheater-- is all of this total B.S.?  I mean, I'm not actually convinced grand gestures work on anyone above the age of twenty-five.

This is coming from a woman who hasn't really seen her share of grand gestures through her dating life (though I had fantasized about MANY all set to a Coldplay song, of course.)  I might just as a joke tell my husband we need to separate to see what kind of grand gestures I could get out of him (hopefully something that includes a truck-load of pugs).  The only time someone made a grand gesture to get me back was when my hometown boyfriend showed up outside of my college dorm room on Valentine's Day...and I totally denied him (after making out with him).

I'm sort of convinced that grand gestures only truly exist at the end of romantic comedies.  And if they do have a place in real life, I'm fairly certain they don't work on dudes.  (Remember on SATC when Carrie said it's romantic when men stand outside your window and creepy/stalker-ish when women do it?)

Do you guys have any good grand gesture stories to prove me wrong?  Comment below so I can live vicariously through you. 

Also: stay strong, Paula.

6 comments:

  1. I was living on the west coast and flew to the east coast to apologize in person. (( long story short a photo was shared on social media which was entirely misleading.)) I went to his house straight from the airport, rang the doorbell, and smiled. All was forgiven. Long distance is brutal. Especially one opposite coasts. Although it ended two years later, I think often times it is crucial to put forth as much effort as possible. I would have always doubted myself had I not gone.

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    1. OMG. Can you please email us this entire story so we can use it as a post? I love how one misleading photo on social media could destroy an entire relationship! Totally agree that it's better to make the effort than wonder what could've been.

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  2. Gestures are dope in theory, often awkward in person. I'm not sure if I've received any of grand proportions, but here are a couple from my tender adolescence:

    On my 16th birthday, I woke up to a rose taped on the front door of my parents' house — along with a Maxine themed Hallmark card. It was from this guy I didn't really like. It was uncomfortable.

    Later that year, I got asked to prom. This involved a doorbell ditch to which I found a stick of butter (labeled with my name) on the doorstep. 5 minutes later, the doorbell rang again. When I opened the door, it was to a kid from my English class (with a bag of microwave popcorn in his hand). He then proceeded to say that since he'd "buttered me up" he wanted "pop me the question" and ask me to prom. I then invited him in to keep me company while I ate dinner out of a tupperware. It was also uncomfortable.

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    1. Okay, I think you should track down your prom date and marry him because that is the corniest most amazing thing I've ever heard. I love it!

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  3. if you want to know about paula and robin, you call me privately

    grand gestures... i dont know... real life is not the movies... i'm mixed... but being happily IN a relationship - i want grand gestures that aren't about apologies! :)

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    1. we will need to discuss the Thickes over cocktails some point. I shall add it on our list of things to discuss next time we hang out. Code word: Seavers.

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