Wednesday, April 16, 2014

call girls & the BLOW OFF

No, this post isn't about a Tori Spelling Lifetime movie from the 90's. I'm talking about the other kind of call girls, or rather girls who call dibs. We all have them in our lives, the girl that's dating someone else or the girl that is in a relationship with someone else, but those endeavors don't stop them from calling dibs on other guys.

"If things go south with Boyfriend X I'd totally date insert name."

Then regardless of anything, if you hook up with that person or legitimately develop feelings for them, that girl brands you a bitch because you went after someone she called.

First, can we please get passed the notion of calling? That makes about as much sense as me being upset with someone, because I said that I wanted Taylor Kitsch. It's not the front seat of a car or a cronut. You can't place ownership on potentially being involved with someone. If you are having feelings for someone else you probably shouldn't be with the person you're currently involved with. You also can't place parameters on other people's feelings.

For starters, you don't know if this guy you're calling would even be interested in you. What if your friend and this guy are really supposed to be together and for some reason they have this loyalty to you, don't go after the guy, and then they don't spend the rest of their lives with the person they were supposed to be with?

You can't expect your friends to sit on the sidelines avoiding every guy their girlfriends call. It's selfish. If that was the case no one would ever date anyone. Look I'm not advocating going after someone that your friend has had a relationship with or has had some kind of legitimate experience, but aside from that all bets are off.

I can't with girls that call guys anymore. You can call them but I'm not listening. And ladies, I suggest you join me.

How do you feel about call girls?


  1. I have a friend who did this but with wedding venues. She's already married and her sister just got engaged. The sister has been taking about this one venue she likes and my friend told me she didn't think her sister should be able to get married there since it was a place she had originally considered. WTH!

  2. As with most things in life - this is not a black and white issue - there is a lot of gray. Let me explain... I would NOT consider myself to be a "call girl" (side note: call-girl, hehe) but I had this best friend in graduate school - he was a guy. I was in love with him but he had a girlfriend and I totally respected that - but I KNEW there were SOME feelings on his end too - so 1) I DO think it's possible to be in a relationship and have some amount of feelings for somone else but not to the point where you would leave someone over it or where it would impact your current relationship. One day, one of my girlfriends at school made a joke that if he ever came on the market he would be a hot commodity (or something like that, I don't remember the exact wording) I was like, "fu*k that, everyone knows I have dibs" and she was like, "obviously." So 2) I do honestly think none of the girls in my grad school program would have DARED until he and I figured out if we were gonna make a go at it. Lastly... we did kiss once - when he was super drunk he said "you know I love you, right?" and we made out. This is how I know all of this to be true. We never talked about what happened and just went on being friends after that. So, yeah...DIBS! ;-)