Wednesday, April 2, 2014

the bitch & the BLOW OFF

Women get a bad rap for being emotional. It's stupidly used as a reason why we should never have a female President. What if she gets her period? Yeah, the idiots that say that make me cringe too. But once again women have gotten the short end of the proverbial double edged sword. When we display no emotion in romantic situations we're then marked as callous.

I recently had a situation where someone who hurt me came back into my life and wanted to hang out as friends. Instead of being the girl who continues making the same mistake I decided to take a different approach.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, right? I wanted to ask if he was on crack. I wanted to ask where the hell he got off trying to breeze his way into a friendship with me and thinking that this was an opportunity I would jump at. I wanted to tell him to go fuck himself.

I wasn't mean. I wasn't rude. I was honest. I basically told him that I wasn't interested in being a part of each other's lives. So now instead of being an overly emotional mess he just considers me a bitch that cuts someone out of her life when things don't go my way and you know what? That pisses me off!

I made a mature decision to insure that I wouldn't be putting my emotional stability in jeopardy by pretending to be friends with someone that was once a romantic interest that for lack of a better term, blew me off. If that makes me a bitch then I guess that's a label I have to live with but I know that I did the right thing for me. Being a bitch means that I looked after myself and my interests instead of his.  I wasn't going to let him get away with whatever behavior he wants, while still having the benefit of my friendship.

I was probably only able to do this because I was truly over this person and I honestly don't care what he thinks since he's someone I don't want in my life, but it's still annoying that being calm and straightforward still got me a label.

Girls, it seems like we can't win...until it's the right guy that is...hopefully.
XO,
Wannabe

4 comments:

  1. Was it Jared Leto?

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  2. I've had that wine. It did not taste as delicious as I had hoped. :/

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  3. I've totally had this happen to me where a guy has come back to apologize for something in the past and i've been sort of whatever about it. I get the "you're obviously bitter" response. Um, NO. I just have no use for you in my life anymore.

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  4. If it was Jared Leto this would be a completely different post. A girl can dream. And since he's not Jared Leto he does not have carte blanche which is why I responded the way I did. No in all seriousness though I'd probably have to say the same to JL in this situation as much as it would rip my heart out to do so.

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