Monday, August 25, 2014

the passive-aggressive unfollow & the BLOW OFF

Okay, so this post was originally going to be a third installment on annoying social networking habits-- but I noticed that I already wrote a post in January 2014 about Facebook offenses and I feel like I need to wait until at least 2015 before I bitch and moan about my newsfeed again.  EXCEPT for pregnancy TMI.  Ladies, congrats but I don't need to see a photo of a stick you just peed on, your sonogram, or your bare belly shots.  By all means, document the hell out of that shit, but you don't have to upload it to the internet.

ANYWAY. Let's discuss the topic at hand.



How many of you have unfriended or unfollowed someone on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram just to make a point to them?  I mean, we know celebrities do it to each other all the time-- how else could the world keep track of whether Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez are still friends-- but what about when us normal folks engage in the same kind of behavior?  In my opinion, it's a bit passive-aggressive.  I mean, on Facebook* there's something called the "unfollow" option that functions differently than on Instagram and Twitter.  I use it all the time.  When you "unfollow" someone on Facebook, none of their posts will show up in your newsfeed, but you're still technically "friends" with them.  This way, you can pretend the person you're pissed at no longer exists, but they don't have to know you're pretending they don't exist. We can all be like:
Wait, what's that you say?  "Saaara, do you really expect us to believe you've never unfriended someone?!"  Ugh, loyal readers, why must the imaginary internal monologues that I make up for you in your heads always hold me accountable for my own crap?  Okay, yes.  I've unfriended people.  Am I proud of it?  Not really.  I've unfriended a couple people whose politics I couldn't deal with.  You know, those peeps who felt compelled to like the page "I support Chick-fil-A".  And one time I may have unfriended a family member over football- uh, what?  I'm not even that into football.  Clearly, I temporarily lost my mind.  I also blocked a friend on Instagram, because she'd unceremoniously dropped out of my life and I didn't really want her to be privy to anything I was doing.

But if you think that's bad, that same friend's MOM unfriended me on Facebook.  I promise you, the friend and I never even had a falling out and her mom has known me since I was a thirteen year old kid.  Admittedly, she probably doesn't know the "unfollow" button exists, but WTF mature adult person?

In the case of ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends, I think unfriending (FB) and unfollowing (Twitter & Instagram) is totally acceptable.  In fact, I encourage it.   But when it comes to family members or people you've known for years and there's no obvious chasm that's made you not want them in your life, then don't send people into a vague and confusing tail spin wondering what they've done wrong to get the social networking boot. Aiight? Aiight.

*I have no idea how unfriending/unfollowing works on Google+ because-- is anyone even on Google+?

5 comments:

  1. Seriously - discovering "The Blow Off" has been the best thing to happen to me in 2014.

    That being said, I was once called out by someone who I unfriended (she was being very self-righteous about Columbus Day, and I GET IT - Columbus did terrible things; however...as an East coast Italian we like to overlook that and celebrate!), and instead of standing up for my decision, I panicked and acted like I thought SHE unfriended ME. Clever! Of course, now I'm "friends" with her again, and I thank god for "unfollow".

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    1. awwwww so glad you found us! And I know people who have done that too!! Pretended they didn't do the unfriending, too funny! and smart move!

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    2. Yea! Totally not passive aggressive at all!

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  2. That's a good point, unfollowing is an inseparable part of one's life in social media, but in my opinion it's overrated. For most of web friendships an end would be the best thing possible. I don't care about unfollowers, all i do is keep my following list empty of those not interested in me, cause most of the time it indicates that we've got different attitudes making us dislike each other. I use a web app fast-unfollow.com to get rid of them automatically, so i don't waste time to unnecessary people. 5000 unfollows per day must be enough for anyone.

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    1. Or you could humanely explain to them what the issue is and if it cannot be resolved, tell them you're going to have to unfriend. Such a horrible thing to do in today's passive aggressive sociopathic society, I know.

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