Wednesday, November 12, 2014
Dating Time Machine: Can we go back to the 1950s??
Posted by saaara
This makes me nostalgic. Not for 2005. But for the 1950s. Okay, I wasn't even alive then and it was a terrible time for women and African-Americans, BUT what if there was some sort of magical dating time machine that only reverted us back to the way people dated in the 50s?
Back in those days, men actually walked up to a woman and asked her out on a date in person. They didn't shoot her a Facebook message or a vague text. They'd pick her up at her house, hold the door open for her, go on a proper date, help her with her coat, pick up the tab, and maybe stop at the drive-in or Look Out Point for some heavy petting. That literally sounds like heaven to me. I mean, back then people were SO connected, they drank one milkshake with two straws. These days, we've replaced eye contact with checking our phones.
I imagine there was never a grey area with dating. You were either going steady or you were just friends, but there had to have been less "what are we doing?" conversations taking place. Also, it was normal for people to get married young, so very rarely did you have to deal with the "I still want to sow my wild oats" dilemma. Porn wasn't nearly as prevalent, so dudes actually wanted to have sex all the time. Okay, I've seen Mad Men. I know men also had mistresses and affairs with their secretaries, but has philandering decreased over time? Nope. It's gone up. It's way easier to cheat these days because you can find someone to hook up with simply by turning on your phone.
It's kind of sad that we live in a time where a dude bringing flowers on the first date, actually seems clingy and creepy. Back then, it was the norm. Men, can't you start adding a little 1950s flair into your dating techniques. And ladies, can you be more open to it?