Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Are we out of the woods?

It's another installment of Taylor Swift Tuesday, guys. This week we dissect the lyrics in my second favorite song on her album "Out of the Woods." For those of you that aren't in the know, this one's about Harry Styles from One Direction who Swift dated briefly last year. The chorus is simple and asks the questions:

Are we out of the woods?
Are we in the clear yet?

Tay-Tay has said this song is about "a relationship where I was kind of living day-to-day wondering where it was going, if it was going to go anywhere, if it was going to end the next day."

This sounds like every single romantic experience I had before I met the H-Bomb. Can anyone else relate to that feeling? It's basically dating someone who's still making their mind up about you even while you're in a relationship. It's the most unsettling case of limbo. You never know if the next date is going to be your last. One wrong comment, one bad hair day, one off outfit choice, and they could disappear for good or give you the "I don't want anything serious" speech.

This kind of relationship is complete and utter torture, especially when you're the one that's all in and they're the one who's still undecided. You're usually left feeling insecure-- obsessing over exactly what you're lacking. You may experience some sleepless nights or the sudden need for anti-anxiety pills. The uncertainty gets so bad and unbearable that you end up being the one to force the issue and  calling it off all together.

Sadly, as frustrating as these types of relationships are, they're completely necessary. They can actually be a blessing. One of the reasons I fell in love with the H-bomb was because I never felt like he was on the fence or confused about how he felt about me. We were never in the woods so to speak. And if it wasn't for all those wishy-washy guys from my past, I wouldn't have realized what that meant. It was such a relief to be with a guy I was crazy about who knew exactly what he wanted (me). I didn't have to worry about what I said or how I looked all the time.

For the first time in my dating life, I felt like I was dating a man and not a confused, inconsistent, hot and cold, scared little boy.  Nine years later, I still feel that way. Have you guys ever had a "out of the woods" kind of relationship? Comment below!
                    

2 comments:

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  2. okay, i actually don't agree with this sentiment. A lot of times there's a "maybe yes" that turns into a "fuck yes" after a month or two of dating. Sometimes it's a slow burn. I know people who were iffy on their significant others in the "getting to know you" stages and then transitioned into the fuck yes period and are now married and happy.

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