Tuesday, December 16, 2014
Girls without Brothers & the BLOW OFF
Posted by saaara
"He wants to fucking fuck you. He wants your fucking pussy."
It's a pretty simple explanation. When I ran it by the H-bomb he said, "sounds about right." It's by no means earth-shattering, but it got me to wonder if we'd save ourselves a lot of analysis, heartache, confusion, and bewilderment if we just repeated those words to ourselves like a mantra: "he wants to fucking fuck me, he wants my fucking pussy." I know it's crass and harsh, but maybe that's the kind of tough love necessary to move on.
I've never had this no-nonsense take on dating. I did grow up with a brother, but he was eight years younger. When I was in the middle of dating bullshit in my twenties, he was sixteen, so there wasn't much light he could shed on the topic. Now that he's twenty-six, I've gotten much more of a window into the male psyche and it would have been really helpful to have the same insights ten years ago when I really needed them.
This theory isn't full-proof. The bestie is now married, but in our twenties, we did plenty of analysis together on guys that she dated as well. We can all fall victim to relationship psychological warfare. But I do agree that the ladies I know with older brothers seem to have a different perspective on men. They had a front row seat to male dating behavior and after years of being witness to it, they know exactly why he's texting or calling again. Say it with me. "He wants to fucking fuck you. He wants your fucking pussy." Maybe if we say it enough, we could finally have a dating mantra that replaces "he's just not that into you."