As the editor of this site, I take full responsibility for the content-- but I also don't like it when readers fling insults at our contributors. So, I wanted to give SVB an opportunity to address the comments. I'm grateful he took the time to do so:
The first thing I felt when reading the passionate (and sometimes heated) comments from one of my previous posts was sadness for the readers who were so deeply affected by my portrayal and characterization of a girl I briefly dated. It's obvious there are many compassionate and empathetic readers of the BLOW OFF. It was never my intention to cause anyone grief.
To get everyone quickly apprised, last year I had written about a chain of texts that I had received from a girl that quickly spiraled into irrationality that spanned the spectrum of emotions. You can read the post here. Maybe using the word, "crazy," was not the best choice of words for this woman. Clearly, she was in need of medical attention.
Sometimes, things are written in a way that seems to lack sincerity or concern. For those who have never read a story on the BLOW OFF, I believe you must take into account context. Read the "About" section. Heck, the email for this site is TheBlowOffWTF@gmail.com. The language and context used is often-times humorous, judgmental, and maybe borderline schizophrenic (no offense, Saaara!).
I consider myself a "comedic" writer. Maybe not a very good one, or even mediocre, but it's out there. In no way can I be mentioned in the same breath as these people, but when Stephen Colbert, Jon Stewart, Daniel Tosh, Chelsea Handler, or any comedian provides social commentary they do so in a way that can be sarcastic and irreverent. This was my way of lightening up the mood in a very difficult and scary situation.
I made a lot of mistakes in my irresponsible characterization of "Sonia" as "crazy," but my style of writing and the style of this website is often done in a humorous and sometimes mocking tone. I stayed consistent with that. Sonia's name is blacked out because I did (and do) worry about her well-being. I don't want her to read it and she most likely never will.
I am very thankful that there is an honest – and earnest – discussion going on from the comments on the previous post. Mental health is something that does not garner a lot of attention. I have been depressed at different times of my life. I have even thought about suicide, but I can thankfully say that is not something that I've dealt with in a long time. I don't know what that means or why I'm telling you this. I'm not looking for your sympathy or a free pass in what I've written, but I may be more empathetic than I let on.
You can mock me all you want for being a "narcissist," a "douchebag," or whatever name you'd like to call me, because I can handle it. Sure, it bothers me a bit, but I open myself up for criticism with a post like that.
There were, however, some comments that I take exception to. Was this some kind of attempt to boost my own ego by bragging about the attention I received from Sonia? Or by mentioning how many women I've hooked up with? Once again, this site is about people who have been blown off or people who are doing the blowing off. Is there sex involved in these blow offs? Almost every single time. My mentioning this is to add credibility to my experiences. The fact of the matter is that those commenters who don't like the post will find whatever way they want to poke holes in my character. Do I get an ego boost?
Yes. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I. WRITE. A. POST. It's therapeutic and feels good. Like writing a diary. And it's MY diary. Did I use Sonia or mention sexual conquests to attain this level of ego-boosting? NO. I write about EVERYTHING. I feel the need to mention again, that this site is for outrageous things that happen to us in relationships and courtships. I think this fits the bill.
I thank Sara for being so pragmatic in her blog comment responses. I do want to close on one point. I don't think there's one person out there who hasn't used the word "crazy" to describe someone or something as recently as this month, this week, or even this day. To vilify me is ultimately up to you, but let's not be hypocritical.
I can grow from this experience and I hope others can as well when it comes to our mental health.