Monday, March 9, 2015

what if your boyfriend came with an owner's manual??

Sometimes when the H-bomb and I aren't seeing eye to eye on something, he says that our relationship would be so much easier if we could just read each other's operating manuals. Unfortunately, significant others don't come with one. And if mine did, my operating manual would probably look something like this:
The longer we've been together (9 years dating, 3 1/2 years married), the more we realize that we're pretty different. Sure, we have similar political (liberal) and religious (agnostic/atheist/undecided) beliefs. We like a lot of the same restaurants and TV shows. We both prefer a night on the couch at home to going out. We're both equally obsessed with pugs and treat our dog like she's our child. But I'm also way more emotional and sensitive. Way more anal and stressed out. While he's more easy-going and has no feelings. Haha, JK. He's got feelings, I just have WAY more.

So as a way to understand each other better, we've decided to try to take a crack at our owner's manuals by taking the Myers-Briggs type indicator. And I'm not talking about just taking an online test. We're way more hardcore than that. We're each taking the test at home and will have the results analyzed and presented to us by a therapist.

This is what happens when you hit your thirties, folks. You start wanting to learn a lot about yourself. Per the questionnaire: "Your answers will help show how you like to look at things and how you like to go about deciding things. Knowing your own preferences and learning about other people's can help you understand where your special strengths are, what kind of work you might enjoy and be successful doing, and how people with different preferences can relate to each other and be valuable to society."

Part of me wants to copy all of his answers just to be like "Surprise: we're exactly the same!" but this thing is actually kind of pricey so I'm gonna take it seriously. Wish us luck, guys. I'll do a follow up post to report our results. One thing I'm sure of--- it's gonna tell me that the way I can be valuable to society is by running a pug farm.

1 comment:

  1. When you're done with that one, try the Enneagram. That link is to the free 36-question test, but I recommend buying a book and doing the whole 144. Take it from a point-seven who's been married to two different point-fours, it's worth it.