Monday, June 29, 2015
the three non-negotiables & the BLOW OFF
Posted by saaara
After being married for close to four years (I know, that's not at all long enough to dispense any advice), here's my three:
#1 Gets along with your friends and family. It's so easy to have that us against the world mentality when you're dating someone, but a lifetime of that will get old quickly. A good portion of our relationships are spent with friends and family-- whether it's a vacation or a wedding or a birthday party, you want someone who's adaptable and can fit in. Ask yourself on those early dates: if I took this guy or girl to a party, would it change the mood for the worse?
#2 Has ambitions. Being ambitious and making money are two different things, but IMO it's important to find someone who has career goals and passions. If you're kicking ass at your job, it's hard to come home to someone who hasn't done much with their day. But if your partner loves what they do, even if it doesn't come with a heavy cash flow, it makes all the difference. And you're far more likely to support their dreams than be annoyed by them.
#3 It's a cliche, but YES, a sense of humor. You need someone who doesn't always take life or themselves too seriously. Shit gets hard and we all need someone who can make us laugh during our most stressful times. Sometimes the H bomb and I will find ourselves in the middle of an argument and one of us will crack a joke that diffuses the tension and helps put things in perspective.
What are your three non-negotiables? Comment below!