Sara: why are you rejecting all of the women over 30
Guy friend: If they're over 30 and single, there's a reason
Sara: But you're over 30 and single
Guy friend: It's different
Let's forget for a second the double standard that's at work here and the assumption that men choose to be single and women do not and instead, really explore this "there's a reason they're single"point of view. We know what Tracy McMillan's take is on this question, but I have a few different perspectives to offer. If you're a dude and you're reading this, maybe it'll make you think twice about swiping left.
#1 SHITTY luck. Plain and simple. It's not easy to meet someone you connect with who also connects with you where the timing is perfect and you both want the same thing out of the relationship. This shit is rare. Which Mr. Dude who's swiping left-- that's probably the main reason you're still single.
#2 Their super long relationship that didn't pan out. A lot of 30-something women who are currently available were in epically long relationships in their 20s. It's highly likely that they just got out of a six or seven year relationship with someone they realized they weren't going to spend the rest of their life with.
#3 Their career goals were more important to them than their relationship goals. Maybe they moved across country for a promotion or broke up with their last BF for grad school or work long hours and don't have time to date and they finally broke down and joined Tinder or Hinge or Happn.
#4 They're picky and have high standards and wouldn't you prefer to end up with someone who wouldn't just date anybody?
#5 They're batshit crazy. Just kidding. They've been dating the wrong guys-- which, if you think about it, makes sense considering a lot of the decent men are swiping left.
It pisses me off that my single guy friends might be avoiding 30something women because they think they're boring or crazy or turn into Shrek at sundown and that's why they don't have boyfriends. The truth is, dudes are missing out on really interesting, smart, women who are probably going to act way less nutty and unstable in a relationship than that 26 year old girl you've got your eye on.
I mean, would you rather date this girl....
or this girl?
|Rachel McAdams is single and in her 30s, guys|