Monday, July 27, 2015

the career slump & the BLOW OFF

Full disclosure: I have been neglecting the BLOW OFF. Big time. The good news is, I've been busy with other writing commitments (that actually pay me money). About a year ago, I sold my first YA novel to Viking and have been busy with rewrites and deadlines. The book will be on shelves come summer 2016 and you can read more about it here. And two months ago, I was hired to write for The CW show iZOMBIE. It's pretty much my dream job. I am honestly grateful everyday that I get to do what I love for a living. It's not something I plan to take for granted.

I swear, this is not a "humble" brag. I'm writing this for anyone who is currently in a career slump or contemplating leaving that job they hate to do something they love (that's possibly much riskier and far less stable). I've been really honest on this site about my own career slumps and job dry spells and I know that in my chosen industry, the tide can turn very quickly. Over five years ago, I had a cushy career as a network executive, and even though I loved many of the people I worked with, I was miserable. For starters, I hated wearing heels to work. But I also didn't want to be the person giving notes to writers when I wanted to be a writer. So, I saved as much money as I could and gave notice six months before I turned 30.

The last five years have been filled with career highs and lows. When your chosen profession is not one that comes with a clear path (like say, being a doctor), it can put you into panic mode and leave you frustrated when things don't go your way. Suddenly, you find yourself longing for the stability of that day job you hated. But during those times, I never thought about giving up. Even when I wasn't technically getting paid, I was still writing and producing material. When the TV stuff wasn't panning out, I wrote the book. When my agents weren't sending me out for jobs, I found new agents. Perseverance makes all the difference when you work in a creative field.

The same can be applied to relationships. If we gave up on them the first or second or third time we had our hearts broken, then we would all just end up alone.

So, that's a really roundabout way of saying: I'm sorry I've been neglecting my blog. I promise I'll try to keep writing posts... that aren't Bachelor related. BUT you guys can write content for the site too! I love getting contributions from readers. Here's what I'm looking for when it comes to relationship posts: Funny, unique, fucked-up stories about your break-up or any other life related BLOW OFF. Here's what I'm not looking for: a super long-winded, detailed, specific story about your current relationship that ends with you asking for advice about the guy or girl who's giving you all kinds of mixed signals. Send your stories to us at I promise, it'll feel really cathartic. And maybe, you'll even meet your future husband or wife because of it.


  1. As a struggling writer in a career slump this post is hugely hopeful and inspiring. Thank you!!

    1. You are hugely talented! I'm sure your career slump will be very short lived!

  2. Excellent update -- and congrats! As a fellow freelancer who quit my stable and very well-paying job almost a year ago in order to grab at wonderful autonomy, I love reading stories like this (I've commented on some of your career-related posts in the past).

    Things are also going extremely well for me, and I have NEVER regretted my move for one hot minute. (I did wait until I was 10 years older than you were when you quit, but I wanted a *really* large financial cushion so that stress would be at an absolute minimum).

    This ride is a short one -- we should all go for what we can when we can, if we can. That may read like the inside of a Hallmark card, but it's the goddamn truth. And those of us who actually can and do take such risks should appreciate on a daily basis how very, very lucky we are. Really.

    1. Hey Rebecca, I actually had you in mind when I wrote this post! So glad to hear things are going so well for you! Yay to living the dream!