Monday, October 12, 2015

Men Suck: a critical analysis

Men are all idiots.

What’s wrong with men these days?

Men are only after one thing.

Men: can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em.

As women, we spend hours comforting each other when we feel wronged by men. By talking negatively about our dates, boyfriends, and husbands who let us down, there’s a covert pride in being able to bring comfort to other women, along with a sense of vindication when colluding about how awful men can be. As a way to make sense of perceived wrongs, women have developed a banter to diminish the men in their lives. It can even be covert—a roll of the eyes, a sideways snicker and glance, a subtle shake of the head.

We have formed our own little club. The membership dues? Ridiculing the men who we let get close enough to disappoint us.

I’m reminded of the Henry Ford quote “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” If you believe that men are all idiots, then you’ll be right and every decision they make will be idiotic. If you believe that men are only after sex, then you’ll be right and you will only meet men who disappear after you sleep with them.

There are guys out there who act like they were raised by neanderthals. But one man’s fuck up is not a result of a general dysfunction of the entire male gender. After all, we can all point to several men in our own lives who try to do things right.

Let’s help each other toward a more positive and hopeful outlook. Break away from the tribe! The ideology! The self-fulfilling prophecies! It’s not easy. It feels practically embedded in my DNA to start grumbling about men. But next time you’re BLOWN OFF, instead of venting about the entire male gender to your friends, send your story to

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