Wednesday, April 20, 2016
The Basic Bitch & the BLOW OFF
Posted by Sammi Robin
I've been hooking up with this guy on and off for years and the other night he posted a pic of his new gf on Facebook. She's this beautiful blonde and while it stung a little, I was like "OK I get it. Moving on." Then there's the guy I dated for years. The guy I gave my heart and soul to. The guy I was convinced was incapable of really being in love and completely opening his heart/life to anyone.
Like most girls in this situation, it turns out that he was actually only incapable of opening his heart to ME. You see he did fall in love. Now he's the part where I become not so nice. She's a plain Jane, a basic bitch, the kind of girl you wouldn't look twice at. I even showed a picture of her to my therapist and she said "I can see why you would be confused." That's why I pay her the big bucks.
Looks aren't everything, I get it. I'm sure to him she's beautiful. And I got pretty crazy after all the years of torture that I endured. I say endured because I am aware that I allowed it to go on. I'm not at all proud of how I acted, but I could barely get him to take me to dinner. He just took her to Europe. Yes, Europe.
At the end of the day, I'm grateful that he met her. If he hadn't, I fear our situation would have continued and I'd be stuck in the awful purgatory that I wasn't strong enough to take myself out of. Sometimes the universe does things for us that we are unable to do for ourselves. And while I'm sure he treats her better than he treated me because he seems to actually care about her, I am still not convinced he will ever be capable of the type of unconditional love that I would like to have.
Still, I would be lying if I said it wasn't a blow to my ego. I try not to think about him or let it bother me, but sometimes I still have to ask whyyy. Fortunately, my wise best friend had an answer. "She's a Ford. Safe and durable. People who own Fords own them forever. And no one is ever jealous of someone who drives a Ford."
So there ya have it. I'm sorry if I've offended any Ford owners or basic bitches. You can hate me for writing this post, or you can admit that you've secretly been there. There's not much that is worse than being dumped...Oh, yes there is. Being dumped and then replaced with a basic bitch.