Thursday, June 16, 2016

how do people move on SO fast?

No, seriously. I'm asking, because I have no idea. Even if I had dudes lined up after all my break-ups, I still needed months (or years) to recover before I was interested in getting serious with someone else. But some people don't seem to need that space.

Taylor Swift does not need that space.

She should change the lyrics to her song to "I've got a blank space baby... for about two minutes before I get a new boyfriend." A couple weeks ago, it was reported that she and Calvin Harris broke-up. If you follow celebrity gossip as religiously as I do, then you know these two regularly GUSHED about each other. They posted steamy vacation pictures on Instagram. They showed a ton of Twitter PDA. They thanked each other at award shows (well, she did-- I don't think he won any awards), she fan-girled over him at Coachella, he said she checked boxes he didn't even know existed. You get the picture. Then they broke-up, and now she's already making out with Tom Hiddleston.

Is it terrible to say that Hiddleston's ruined for me now? At least temporarily. She ruined Jake Gyllenhaal for a while there too, but he recovered nicely. I don't think Swift got dumped and found another guy right away. I think she met Hiddleston during all that Met Gala ridiculousness, and dumped Calvin Harris to date him. But seriously, how do you go from getting all sentimental during an acceptance speech, to dating someone else in a matter of weeks?

I suppose if you're a young, attractive, wealthy, celebrity it's almost impossible to stay single. Your options are endless. But it's not just celebs that do this. This post isn't really about Taylor Swift. It's about all of you civilians that are able to do it, too. Even the thought of changing my coffee order gives me panic attacks and feelings of regret, remorse, and doubt. How do you guys do it with people?? I really want to know. If you're reading this, and you're a serial monogamist or someone who jumps from relationship to relationship-- no judgment. Just explain yourself, PLEASE.
                


3 comments:

  1. Saara, I think it depends on the relationship and the person. Sometimes, the relationship is over long before it is officially over. I was married for 24 years, had no intentions of getting involved but within a few months I met someone and surprisingly very happy.

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  2. Well w/r/t Taylor--her and Calvin ANNOUNCED their breakup 2 weeks ago, but the statement said that they had been broken up for "some time", so I'm thinking they didn't announce it for a few weeks.

    When it comes to moving on quickly, I definitely think part of it has to do with all the dating apps available nowadays. Download Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, whatever app on your phone and you can have another date in a few hours to fill the loneliness, or find a fling to get over someone. You always have options. I also find that guys tend to be able to move on right away. They don't hang on to things emotionally. One of my friends just broke up with his g/f of almost 3 years who he was LIVING with. Her stuff isn't even completely out of his place yet and he's looking at other girls on Tinder. Sometimes people stay in a situation longer than they want to so when it's finally over, they're ready to move on. Others just want to get back out there to avoid being alone. I am seeing that it's getting more and more common though as there are these apps for meeting people.

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  3. Well w/r/t Taylor--her and Calvin ANNOUNCED their breakup 2 weeks ago, but the statement said that they had been broken up for "some time", so I'm thinking they didn't announce it for a few weeks.

    When it comes to moving on quickly, I definitely think part of it has to do with all the dating apps available nowadays. Download Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, whatever app on your phone and you can have another date in a few hours to fill the loneliness, or find a fling to get over someone. You always have options. I also find that guys tend to be able to move on right away. They don't hang on to things emotionally. One of my friends just broke up with his g/f of almost 3 years who he was LIVING with. Her stuff isn't even completely out of his place yet and he's looking at other girls on Tinder. Sometimes people stay in a situation longer than they want to so when it's finally over, they're ready to move on. Others just want to get back out there to avoid being alone. I am seeing that it's getting more and more common though as there are these apps for meeting people.

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